Live And Learn
If you are a faithful blog reader you know I think of myself as a bit of a player. And the term player obviously means that there’s a game. I think I’ve learned a lot about game but every once in a while I just get schooled by a true grand master. Either it’s some guy who’s far more technically proficient than I am OR it’s by some guy is an absolute natural.
This past week I got some great lessons by a guy who was so good that I couldn’t even tell if he was a master or a natural, but this guy had more game than Milton Bradley and BOTH of the Parker Brothers. At times like this you just have to sit back and watch and hope you learn something useful.
At first when he made his approach I thought he was a buffoon, but it worked so amazingly well I was absolutely shocked and sat in stunned awe for at least an hour watching this guy. His opener was simply classic, he spotted one for the girls at the bar and had seen her before so when she waved he came over and said, I shit you not:
“Hey baby, I remember you from the other night, I must’ve beaten off to you 15 times since then.”
Really what can you say to a guy with balls that big? Me? I bought him a drink and watched him work.
There were three girls at the bar and he neatly placed himself between me and them, completely cutting me off and dominating the situation. If this was a less talented guy I’d have moved my way in and teamed up with him or pushed him out, but it was a lesson to see this guy work. I didn’t think his rap was that great as he kinda played a bit of a clown, but he was tuned into something because in no time these three girls were hanging on every word. In fact, when he left for a bit they couldn’t stop talking about him. “Oh, can you believe he said this??” or “Did you hear this??”
It was amazing. After about 35 minutes of banter, and after not buying a single drink for himself or any of these three chicks, he left the bar with one of them on his arm. That was it. It was like watching a team of Navy seals take on some Boy Scouts in a bar fight.
This guy was playing a game I don’t do well at which is the big, gregarious personality. I’m just not that flashy, but if you can master it, it’s stunningly effective. One thing I always advise and I have always BEEN advised is that you find a game that you are comfortable with. I do the cocky-funny very well since I’m naturally cocky and funny, but when a guy like this comes in who does the giant personality thing? You might as well go home alone but wiser.
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On January 6th, 2007 at 12:41 pm
You raise an interesting point, that I haven’t noticed before. I also do the cocky-funny very well, I tend to have greatest success when I approach girls that are paired up and interrupt their conversation to buy them both a drink and then disappear for a while so they can start talking about me and feed off each other. Often times they will come to me and it is up to them to strike up the conversation, this gives me a sort of power over them since I’m not on the hook to use a pickup line. If they don’t approach me then after they are half way done their drinks I’ll show up again and be more aggressive with my game and as soon as the drinks bottom out, buy a couple more and move either to a more private section of the bar or the dance floor depending on their personalities. I like to play girls in pairs because it’s more challenging and the rewards are usually higher, you can either take off with both of them or introduce a wingman once they are sold into your personality.
Now what I hadn’t entirely noticed before is that the times when I am most successful with this maneuver no one else in the bar has the balls to say something to these girls that will take their minds off of me. Your typical bar stud will tend to be more physically aggressive to try and steal the attention, ie. approach me or get close with the girls. No serious threat since girls tend to find this as a turn off and more often then not end up mocking the dude. But if some guy has enough game to walk up to these girls and say something that will give them a dose of verbal shock therapy like “Hey baby, I remember you from the other night, I must’ve beaten off to you 15 times since then.” They aren’t even going to remember what I look like let alone getting these girls to leave with me…
Perhaps its time to rethink my game, it appears theres some serious room for improvement!
On January 6th, 2007 at 1:05 pm
Not to sound gay, but was the guy good looking? I’m not a playa myself, but through my experiences, only guys who are average-looking can pull that off. If the guy is good looking, then usually girls would suspect something. Chicks tend to know when they’re getting played. Average looking guys have some sort of an advantage with hot chicks because these girls take their shields down and allow lines like “…I must’ve beaten off to you 15 times since then.” pass through.
Somewhat related, what is your opinion of the Juggler Method?
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On January 6th, 2007 at 4:33 pm
Steve you are completley correct in the failings of that approach. I pretty much came to the same conclusion the other night. As I said in my essay, however, you have got to play your own game.
For example if I were really interested in these girls, I could have shut the guy down pretty easily as he was a bit older with a cocky-funny comment like, “15 times? how many bottles of Viagra was that for you?”
Or, “15 times? How long has it been since you saw, her 3 months?”
Breyer - the guy was not great looking, very average, but so am I, and I tend to think it works just as you said. A guy who is average looking comes up to a hto chick and he’s confident, a really good looking guy is seen as ‘cocky’ in a bad way.
I’ll look into the juggler thing and get back to you.